Christian Objectification

You notice her clothes. The way that her dress seems a bit too tight. The way that her legs are exposed and maybe you even see a little bit of cleavage. What's your first instinct?

Wow... no self respect, huh? 

Christians often do the same. This goes out to all the girls and boys. And may I put the emphasis on girls and boys instead of using women and men because frankly no one who behaves this way deserves to be referred to as a mature adult.

You all know that women are increasingly objectified in our time and culture. It's bad enough that this happens in the secular world but I have noticed a behaviour that I would like to name "Christian Objectification" meaning that when we see women who don't dress according to our modesty standards, we may not get the hots for them but we judge them. And guess what. This is still objectification because in that moment, all we see is a body; an object. We don't see the woman herself. We don't see her life, what she is going through, or whether she is a Christian or not. All we notice in that moment is her outside appearance. Do you understand that we are completely aware of you doing this? And here's the shocker: it doesn't make us feel any less dirty than when we are being groped or catcalled by some stranger. It makes us feel like we are still just another body to be judged and not like we are a soul deemed worth loving.

I'm tired of this becoming a new "church trend". We go in under the pretence that we're just doing our Christian duty of upholding each other in our walk with Christ when in reality, more often than not, we are not concerned with the person's soul at that moment but rather with how they offended us by dressing that way. I'd lie if I said I never subjected anyone to this, but that is exactly why I am so aware of this happening all over the place.

Can we all just agree that we're not doing anyone any favours by acting and thinking this way? Don't fool yourself. You're not helping anyone out. You're not concerned for anyone. You're only thinking about yourself.

The next time you look at any girl or woman don't, I repeat, don't objectify her by making quick judgements about her appearance, whether she shares your beliefs or not. Should she pull her dress down a bit? Should she cover up more? I don't know. Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe it's none of your business. Maybe you should still treat her with love and respect.

I don't know. Maybe.

PS: Here is a great piece I read from someone:

"In 1 Timothy 2:9-10, the apostle Paul writes "I also wan the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or  pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God." The Greek word translated "modesty" here is kosmios. Derived from kosmos (the universe), it signifies orderliness, self-control and appropriateness. It appears only twice in the New Testament, and interestingly, its second usage refers specifically to men (1 Timothy 3:2). In fact, nearly all of the Bible's instructions regarding modest clothing refer not to sexuality, but rather materialism (Isaiah 3:16-23, 1 Timothy 2:9-12, 1 Peter 3:3). Writers in both the Old Testament and New Testament express grave concern when the people of God flaunt their wealth by buying expensive clothes and jewelry while many of their neighbours suffered in poverty. (Ironically, I've heard dozens of sermons about keeping my legs and my cleavage out of sight, but not one about ensuring my jewelry was not acquired through unjust or exploitative trade practices -- which would be much more in keeping with biblical teachings on modesty.)
And so biblical modesty isn't about managing the sexual impulses of other people; it's about cultivating humility, propriety and deference within ourselves."